Mirrors eh! Love them or hate them they are interesting – intriguing and also very enlightening.
When you look into the mirror – who do you see?
Do you recognise the person looking back at you?
Do you look at them with love or with criticism ~ or worse ~ condemnation?
Do you see only flaws or perhaps disappointment as the years shift our features into something or someone we may feel we don’t know?
Or do you see a soul looking back at you through your eyes
Searching for a glimmer of kindness ~ love ~ recognition even?
How do you treat that person looking back at you from the mirror? Do you pay them very little attention – do you judge and belittle – do you treat them in the way you would abhor to treat another human being?
What if I remind you that the person in the mirror – the reflection looking back at you – is your greatest ally ~ the one person who doesn’t desert you ~ your greatest teacher ~ your confidante ~ the person who knows every little detail about you – the times you have cried yourself to sleep – the times you have gone out of your way to help others unnoticed ~ your uncertainties and your fears.
Perhaps that is why you criticise that reflection ~ presuming it to be “like others” ready to pounce and use your flaws and insecurities against you?
What if I told you that this person staring right back at you is the one you need to love the most ~ the one you need to be gentle and kind with ~ the one who is always patiently waiting for your approval?
If you are looking for approval- look in the mirror
If you are looking for love – look in the mirror
If you are looking for compassion look in the mirror
If you are looking for inspiration look in the mirror
Looking in the mirror we look to ourselves ~ to our deepest wisdom ~ to our infinite well of unconditional love and compassion. Your greatest teacher looks back at you when you look in the mirror!
What if I told you that everything you don’t like in your life is a mirror? A mirror reflecting back at you the need to look within ~ to look to your own guidance~ to love yourself?
Until we can face the external what ever it may be – with unconditional love and an understanding that all discord comes from a place of lack of love ~ then until we find that place within ~ our own painful hurts will be triggered ~ no amount of external work or avoidance ~ will heal the places where we deeply need to love ourselves.
Learning to love yourself is the greatest gift of all – when you can love yourself unconditionally , there is so much love within that it can’t help overflow and touch everything we do and everyone we meet with that beautiful magic.
Until you learn to love yourself you will always have a space where no matter how much love you receive from others there will still be that aching empty space within.
What if I told you that loving yourself is much easier than you think – it begins with small steps and the more you take these small steps the bigger the impact on your wellbeing.
Start by saying something kind to yourself – If you don’t find it easy to say ” I love you” try “thank you” and if you struggle with that try to stop any negative “thought comments” in their track ….. we say things like ” my hair is a mess” ” you look – Tired/Pale/bored/ too old/ too young/too thin/too fat ….add adjectives to suit your own personal situation. I am sure you will be well aware of the dialogue you have with yourself.
So take some time to appreciate the beautiful soul that looks back at you through your eyes via the lens of the mirror and begin to share love and gratitude with them – watch how life becomes easier and how others respond in a positive way to the changes and the love they can sense emanating from you via the soulful mirror of your eyes ……
We are always a work in progress – No matter how long we have been doing “this”. “This” being working on self development, self awareness, personal healing or what ever else you choose to call it.
There is always room for improvement and there will always be times when we fall back into old patterns, old habits and old knee jerk reactions
Thankfully we get better at recognising it BUT sometimes – just sometimes – there can be something that triggers us that we either choose not to see or it somehow slips past our radar. We convince ourselves that all is well, and for the most part it may well be.
However, we can find ourselves subtly drawn out of our centre. Things just don’t feel quite right, we don’t feel quite right, ungrounded, fuzzy, find it harder to connect. All these feelings when they persist can be good pointers that there is something that we are allowing to go under the radar that needs addressed.
I was reminded , this last week or so , that I had lost sight of focus, clarity had slipped, confusion and a real sense of self doubt was growing. It was subtle at first, nothing I could quite put a finger on. I shrugged it off – all is well – I convinced myself.
Focus goes further out “of focus” pardon the pun! Ungrounded, spacey not able to follow through on what I had started – limping ever so slightly – All is well I tell myself less convincingly.
I have a default space of pain of needing reassurance, of not trusting my own judgement – a childhood wound of not being allowed to assert myself – being told what I needed to do and when. Of needing approval.
Don’t get me wrong it wasn’t a horrid thing, just what ever I seemed to choose – there was always a “BUT” but this one is better, this thing is more acceptable, this way is better. All that unconscious micro chipping away of confidence in the ability to choose took many years of painstaking work. I had it pretty much sussed or so I thought.
A situation almost at its conclusion required me to do something that really felt against the grain – in fairness it was unavoidable and wasn’t really a huge thing – but it triggered that part of me that felt ” less than” that felt “undermined” that felt uncomfortable and unsure. That little girl in me – pushed into the limelight – stood nervously picking her nails – twirling her hair – looking lost – desperately trying to please while wishing she could be a million miles from where she was.
All is well I whispered almost imperceivably this time, as I began to reach out to others in an unhealthy way, fumbling for a sense of security, peeking round corners for answers, being more needy in my relationships yet somehow pushing others out at arms length. A petulance – wanting to do it myself – yet still wanting to be told what I was doing was right – heck as it spiralled it felt like I needed someone to give me permission to do what I needed to do – or perhaps on some level I was looking for a get out clause- an excuse “not to”
Yet somewhere in the seeking, the searching, the grasping at straws – the answers caused more confusion – deepened the growing sense of panic and ungroundedness.
Thoughts beginning to spiral – then thoughts of “hating myself” of being disgusted by my “inability to make sense of things” – the waking in the night micro analysing every move, every choice, the sick feeling rising …… Enough!Thankfully that is when awareness kicked in – I began to see my retreat into that old space and that need to take the reins, to hold myself as my greatest council and to heed my own words. Flower essences to the rescue oops Cerato essence not rescue remedy!
Cerato is a beautiful blue flower that brings us back into the still centre of ourselves where we “know” what to do – where we can hear our inner judgement – when we trust our own plan of action.
A few drops and the rising inner chaos descends to a low hum, a few more drops later – silence – calm – clarity returns. Hearing my own inner council suddenly all the jangly feelings stopped, I knew what to do and not only that I was taking immediate action. It was the ONLY way to get through this – the only way to quell the anxious feelings. Job done!
We have to understand that we are human and that we have these traits, each time we come to a crisis or near crisis point is generally where or when we are ready to make a breakthrough to the next level.
Don’t give yourself a hard time about it – journal with it, make friends with it , cut that inner child some slack and hang out with them – chat with them share perspectives and come to an agreement to move forward – peeling yet another layer of the onion off – shedding some burden that you no longer need to carry – making way for fresh things. New ways. YOUR way.
So remember that it happens to us all – it CAN sneak up on us when we are least expecting it BUT we can quickly shift through and come out the other side – a little bit wiser, a little bit stronger and a lot more aware.
The healing journey is a spiral – not a straight path, with each full circle – just when we feel like we are back in that same old place – have made no progress, are having to go through “all that” AGAIN – Is when we are actually breaking through.
When something emotional is trapped inside its a bit like a bubble in an ice block – there has to be energy to heat the ice so that it melts enough for the bubble to be freed to rise to the surface to dissipate – our emotions are those bubbles trapped inside – little pockets or hurt, of pain, of loss, of abandonment, of rejection in fact anything painful that we have pushed down and frozen inside – the energy needed to unfreeze those emotions come from the catalyst , the trigger , and when we are ready to release the ice melts enough to let that bubble pass to the surface – sometimes quickly and smoothly , sometimes it takes a bit of pushing and shoving and extra energy to coax it out.
The one thing sure about it that if we work with the process we can make things easier and that once released there is a whole new perspective and lessening of the hold that the emotion had on us. It also allows us to be more aware should we revisit this healing spiral of exactly what is going on for us.
I have negotiated this path and have laid another layer of the onion to rest – for now the way forward feels smooth and fresh and vibrant – I know there will be more twists and turns and bumps in the road but I celebrate the victory trusting in my own judgement to show me the way ……
If you need assistance on your journey drop me a message or book a call to have a free introductory chat to see how vibrational essences could assist your healing journey and the path back to the magical and empowered soul that you are under any perceived weights that you carry. https://sallyarthursemotionalwellbeing-4.youcanbook.me/
Like a cog has turned and something “different” has fallen into place.
I have been drawn to a statue I have here of Anubis – saved from a time when my world was filled with Egyptian symbology. His energy is strong and I am sharing what is coming to light for me.
He brings the strength of the divine masculine, he invites us to live from our heart – and to stay true to what we hold in those inner chambers of
Anubis is said to judge the weight of hearts in the underworld – weighing them against a feather-yet he cannot do anything other than to see us from our own eyes, from our own place of wounded judgement.
He invites us now to remove heaviness of heart and to live from our own highest vibrations – not to let others pull us into their storms but to meet them where they are anchored in our own space – strong in our own truth and holding firm to our own knowing and to hold firm in being the highest version of ourselves.
Do not fall into judgement either of yourself or others. Know that you transcend judgement – discernment however is a trusty friend.
Feel the weights calibrate and know that when you feel “off” that you have moved further from your own core and frequency and allow recalibration to take place.
We are asked at this time to lean in fully to the divine masculine and to allow and infact openly invite in that support.
This doesn’t necessarily mean that we ask for external support – although that is absolutely fine – but it could simply mean stepping into our own divine masculine.
As women we have mastered calling in our divine feminine and stepping away from the wounded aspect of ourselves however when we deploy the counterbalance masculine that we need – we often go into defence action wounded masculine space and then feel that things around us begin to crumble.
Many men have mastered their divine masculine but need to employ the evolved feminine aspect rather than the wounded.
As humans we need to interact with both these aspects in their highest vibrational form and to show the opposite aspect exactly how we need things to be, and if that means calling out the dance steps one by one until we master it then lets do that ….
Always remembering to come back to that fluidity at our core that place of our unique inner feminine and masculine mix
Anubis holds space for us to do this – to be in our heart and the more we can love all aspects of ourselves the more we can love the aspects of what ever is mirrored back to us from the external world.
It feels we are at a gateway and only being in this pure and balanced – unjudgmental – and compassionate place can we find – and remain in the sanctuary of our inner peace.
An acceptance of our divine gold print which is slowly coming on line and will enable us to more fully live from that higher heart vibration that removes all weight from our hearts and brings a new vibrational reality with many new choices that have not been available to us in this time line until now.
Important times my friends as you learn the steps of this ancient yet new ritualistic dance with lightness of heart – NO MATTER what plays on externally to you or what your perceptions at any given time may be. As they say ” Love is the answer – no matter the question”
“ Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive” in the words of Walter Scott
The last year or so has really brought that phrase home to roost. We are all affected by what is playing out in the world around us to a greater or lesser degree and no matter where you sit on the fence – the further down the road we go – the more bizarre the twists and turns seem to be.
We are constantly having to check in with our own judgement and inner barometer in order to keep track of just where we are going.
Every living thing we encounter
Every thought we have
Every script we read
Every choice we make
Every conversation we have
Every interaction out with our selves
They are all connected to us by gossamer thin threads. The more we begin to understand this the more simplified we can make it.
Now as you are reading this, I KNOW that YOU are aware of energies and our role in energetic hygiene. Cleansing and clearing your energies personal and physical, keeping clear energetic boundaries and all the “stuff” that I know you will have explored as part of your journey. You would probably not be reading this if you were not interested in energetic interactions!
All that we do brings gossamer attachments and much as we think they are easily brushed off – I would like you to really think about this
How often do you have an interaction with someone that is uncomfortable
you decide to detach from the person
You detach from the situation
Energy ties cut
Done and dusted,
Well, if for one second you go back and replay the situation in your mind, or even talk about it to someone else – think about the person or situation – or try to make sense of what went on – you are renewing that strand of connection without realising it and without taking the steps to cut those ties.
Think on it a bit like sun bathing .
You sit in the sun
You feel your skin begin to burn slightly
You move your position or perhaps go inside for a bit
You return cooled and refreshed to sit in the sun again
As long as you stay within reach of direct sunlight your skin will continue to be affected by those rays. You have to go indoors for the rest of the day – or cover up appropriately and take action – perhaps using Aloe Vera gel to soothe the skin, and to be careful over the next few days until your skin has had a chance to recover.
Energetic attachments are a bit like that. You need to take conscious action to remove all remnants of connection to enable to repairs to your aura or energetic system to be repaired.
The energetic attachments to everything that we are experiencing right now is through the roof – there is deception everywhere you look – there is a need for you to know without a shadow of a doubt your own energy – what YOU as an energetic being need – and how to discern what needs to stay and what needs to go.
I am not talking about who or what is right, wrong, or indifferent. I am talking about really tuning in to your own inner wisdom and learning to walk from that place of truth and discernment. What do YOU as an energetic being NEED to function?
All the opposing views, the myriad “facts” and “figures” the constant bombardment of information from just about everywhere you go and everyone you meet. The Web is indeed tangled, and our “normal” route of detachment just doesn’t cut it pardon the pun.
We can also be guilty of being over attached to points of view or to trains of thought that can serve to keep us feeling safe but these “security blankets” don’t always serve our best interest either.
We have to learn to get up to speed with energetic housekeeping – we need to tune in and discern how a specific person, thought or emotion makes us feel. To really sit with it and unpick the tangles a bit, let it loose how does it feel? Do we need to hold on to it? Do we need to untangle a little more to see where it has gotten its wires crossed and tied up in a pile of other thoughts – notions – feelings.
Can you begin to feel just how messy and complicated our energetic attachments have become?
We are constantly being bombarded by opposing view points – think social media – our phones – the internet – radio – tv – shopping – everyone you meet – unless you get well off the beaten track it can be difficult to detach completely and immerse in the calm still reality of nature – which is our true nature – it is our default setting.
I remember my first ever time on retreat – away from the influence of everyone and everything that normally surrounded me – I was completely shocked to find out that absolutely NOTHING that ? – generally had an influence on me day to day, actually mattered.
Were the kids behaving? It didn’t matter – it wasn’t my responsibility they were in safe hands
Was X, Y or Z happening in my local community? It didn’t matter life still unfolded moment by moment
What was happening in the main stream news? It didn’t matter, I still had to do what I had to in the moment.
Releasing those attachments to having to “know” outside of the realm that was important to me in that moment was liberating. It let me immerse myself fully in every moment that I was there – it let me focus on ME – for once I could hear the voice inside that was normally drowned out by the louder shouting voices of those around me – whether that was family, friends, work colleagues, neighbours, television, internet and probably a million other routes of distraction.
Before enlightenment – Chop wood carry water
After enlightenment – Chop wood,carry water
THE most important thing we can do no matter who we are , no matter the role we take on, no matter how important our mission may feel, no matter what is playing out around us is to BE 100% authentically ourselves. We can’t do that when we are tangled up in all these energetic threads no matter how insignificant they may feel they have a huge impact on our reality.
Think dirty lens on glasses, clear vision obscured
Think radio station slightly off tune, distorted messages
Think ears full of cotton wool – unable to hear clearly
Think rubber gloves on hands – damping down our sense of touch
We don’t put clothes on and then the following day add another layer – we remove the clothing – shower – and put clean clothes on the next day. Our energetic systems require the same attention and even more so right now.
Not only are we being bombarded from all the external sources as above but we are also in an energetic corridor that is bombarding us with energy that is a different frequency to what we are used to.
We ARE evolving energetically whether we like it or not – it isn’t always comfortable BUT we can make it so much easier by taking that responsibility for clearing our energetic bodies and learning how to best work with these new energies.
If we don’t allow the shifts it will become increasingly uncomfortable. If we consistently hang on to the old – we will feel stretched to breaking point.
These simple steps will help you to move through anything you encounter much more easily
There are lots of ways we can assist with the cleansing and repair and vibrational essences are my go to. I will share in another post shortly what essences are best suited to these times and how to use them most effecively.
Allow yourself to be free from as much of this entanglement as you can and really learn to trust that inner knowing – Spidey sense may be appropriate for now?
Solstice Blessings – As Summer Solstice glides in we are immersed in a tremendous amount of solar light. As humans we require this sunlight to thrive – the sun is our greatest source of making vitamin d – and we need that to keep our immune systems topped up and in good working order.
I have a strange relationship with this life giving star – I love the warmth it brings – I love what it gifts us but I struggle from lack of dark skies that help me to access the energy of the stars that feed me at soul level. However this year I am having an incredibly dance with the sun – and I am consciously inviting that energy deep within my being – allowing it to infuse every cell in my body – anchoring it for future use like a solar powered battery.
It feels incredibly important to do this – it feels like the incoming waves of solar energy are gifting us the shift in our internal polarity that we so desperately need to allow our energetic upgrade to be aligned with the planetary upgrade ( you only have to observe the Schuman resonance charts to see how that is playing out)
As our crystalline structures are immersed in solar power – we shift though limitations and expand into the next layer of crystalline based –
– we already hold the crystalline structure –
We are shifting polarity from carbon based to crystalline which isn’t as far fetched as you think!
Crystalline – think silicone dioxide ( quartz) which we already hold in sinews- hair- eyelashes etc
Allow the solar infusions to upgrade your personal energy and activate that inner gold that allows you to shift your personal polarities to match that Of the planetary polar shifts. It may feel a bit icky at times but remember it is magnetic energy so it can really pull us around – going with the flow is key to lessening the feelings of distortion
I encourage you to be open to this upgraded light especially over the next few days – and to take time to sit with this energy – particularly allowing it to settle into the creational void of the reproductive sacral chakra – allowing this light to illuminate all that you want to create – the beauty of life is we DO get to create the experiences we want – though we have to be open that they are not always quite as we had thought – wisdom and willingness to co create.
Exciting times beautiful people
Wishing you solstice blessings may your grail cup be filled with the solar nourishment you need for the coming months. With starlight love, Sally xxx