Sometimes it’s easier to notice our default patterns when they’re given a name and a bit of tongue-in-cheek exaggeration. Two that cropped up this week:
Heidi Houdini: She bursts in full of enthusiasm, notebook and pens at the ready… and then, just as things get close to a deeper truth, she does a vanishing act worthy of the great Houdini himself. Easier to slip away than risk facing what she’s buried for years.
Belinda Brave-Face: Quick with the banter, always upbeat, the one who keeps the jokes and smiles flowing. On the outside she looks fine, but inside there’s a jaded edge, a hollowness that lingers once the punchline has left her lips.
Both patterns developed for a reason. Heidi learned early that her voice didn’t matter, so she tucked it away.
Belinda discovered that performing and entertaining kept her liked and safe, while her real feelings were well hidden underneath…and so the show goes on.
Do you recognise a little bit of Heidi or Belinda in yourself or someone you know?
Why Healing Sometimes Doesn’t bring what we had hoped for.
If you’ve ever had healing sessions, maybe even taken an arm full of courses , and found yourself drifting back into the same old patterns afterwards, you’re not alone.
It’s not that the therapy was ineffective, or that you failed in some way. It’s that for some of us, the silent patterns running in the background don’t hand over control easily. When the solution offered feels out of your control, that sets of the alarm that created the pattern in the first place, and the deeper part of you quietly pulls back, and that’s more than enough to stall change.
Real, lasting shifts happen when there’s space to be heard. When the pattern itself is kept in view, not bulldozed over but gently listened to. When you can choose how to move forward, rather than having something “done to or for you.”
Beginning to Unravel
So here’s the question I leave with you this week: Are you still willing to pay the price of staying stuck?
The tricky part is, these patterns don’t usually announce themselves. Often you can’t see them at all, or they wear disguises so convincing they look like common sense, logic, or “just how life is.” That’s why support matters:
to help identify what’s really going on under the surface
to reframe it so it no longer holds the same power,
and to walk with you through whatever surfaces along the way.
And if you’d like a gentle place to begin, Chiastolite Elixir can support these first steps. For anyone who purchases, I include a simple 3-day ritual protocol as a gift, a way of beginning to unbind old vows and ties with intention, while having something steady to hold you as you take those first steps. You can purchase the Elixir here or book a chat over a cuppa to discuss your needs here
Because sometimes the bravest move isn’t a grand leap forward. It’s choosing to start look at what no longer serves, finding that awareness can be crucial and it gives you the choice to choose what you begin to untangle, one gentle knot at a time.
“ Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive” in the words of Walter Scott
The last year or so has really brought that phrase home to roost. We are all affected by what is playing out in the world around us to a greater or lesser degree and no matter where you sit on the fence – the further down the road we go – the more bizarre the twists and turns seem to be.
We are constantly having to check in with our own judgement and inner barometer in order to keep track of just where we are going.
Everything we encounter
Every thought we have
Every script we read
Every choice we make
Every conversation we have
Every interaction out with our selves
They are all connected to us by gossamer thin threads. The more we begin to understand this the more simplified we can make it.
Now as you are reading this, I KNOW that YOU are aware of energies and our role in energetic hygiene. Cleansing and clearing your energies personal and physical, keeping clear energetic boundaries and all the “stuff” that I know you will have explored as part of your journey. You would probably not be reading this if you were not interested in energetic interactions!
All that we do brings gossamer attachments and much as we think they are easily brushed off – I would like you to really think about this
How often do you have an interaction with someone that is uncomfortable
You decide to detach from the person
You detach from the situation
Energy ties cut
Done and dusted,Right?
Well, if for one second you go back and replay the situation in your mind, or even talk about it to someone else, think about the person or situation, or try to make sense of what went on, you are renewing that strand of connection without realising it and without taking the steps to cut those ties.
Think on it a bit like sun bathing .
You sit in the sun, you feel your skin begin to burn slightly, you move your position or go inside for a bit. You return cooled and refreshed to sit in the sun again
As long as you stay within reach of direct sunlight your skin will continue to be affected by those rays. You have to go indoors for the rest of the day, or cover up appropriately and take action, perhaps use Aloe Vera gel to soothe your skin, and to be careful over the next few days until your skin has had a chance to recover.
Energetic attachments are a bit like that. You need to take conscious action to remove all remnants of connection to enable repairs to your aura or energetic system to be repaired.
The energetic attachments to everything that we are experiencing right now is through the roof, there is deception everywhere you look, there is a need for you to know without a shadow of a doubt your own energy, what YOU as an energetic being need, and how to discern what needs to stay and what needs to go.
I am not talking about who or what is right, wrong, or indifferent. I am talking about really tuning in to your own inner wisdom and learning to walk from that place of truth and discernment. What do YOUNEED to function?
All the opposing views, the myriad “facts” and “figures” the constant bombardment of information from just about everywhere you go and everyone you meet. The Web is indeed tangled, and our “normal” route of detachment just doesn’t cut it pardon the pun.
We can also be guilty of being over attached to points of view or to trains of thought that can serve to keep us feeling safe but these “security blankets” don’t always serve our best interest either.
We have to learn to get up to speed with energetic housekeeping, we need to tune in and discern how a specific person, thought or emotion makes us feel. To really sit with it and unpick the tangles a bit, let it loose how does it feel?
Do we need to hold on to it?
Do we need to untangle a little more to see where it has gotten its wires crossed and tied up in a pile of other thoughts – notions – feelings.
Can you begin to feel just how messy and complicated our energetic attachments have become?
We are constantly being bombarded by opposing view points from:
social media
our phones
the internet
radio – tv
everyone you meet
unless you get well off the beaten track it can be difficult to detach completely and immerse in the calm still reality of nature, which is our true nature, it is our default setting.
I remember my first ever time on retreat, away from the influence of everyone and everything that normally surrounded me. I was completely shocked to find out that absolutely NOTHING that generally had an influence on me day to day, actually mattered.
Were the kids behaving? It didn’t matter, it wasn’t my responsibility they were in safe hands
Was X, Y or Z happening in my local community? It didn’t matter life still unfolded moment by moment
What was happening in the main stream news? It didn’t matter, I still had to do what I had to in the moment.
Releasing those attachments to having to “know” outside of the realm that was important to me in that moment was liberating. It let me immerse myself fully in every moment that I was there. It let me focus on ME, and for once I could hear the voice inside that was normally drowned out by the louder shouting voices of those around me. Whether that was family, friends, work colleagues, neighbours, television, internet and probably a million other routes of distraction.
Before enlightenment – Chop wood carry water
After enlightenment – Chop wood,carry water
THE most important thing we can do no matter who we are , no matter the role we take on, no matter how important our mission may feel, no matter what is playing out around us is to BE 100% authentically ourselves.
We can’t do that when we are tangled up in all these energetic threads no matter how insignificant they may feel they have a huge impact on our reality.
Think dirty lens on glasses, clear vision obscured
Think radio station slightly off tune, distorted messages
Think ears full of cotton wool – unable to hear clearly
Think rubber gloves on hands – damping down our sense of touch
We don’t put clothes on and then the following day add another layer. We remove the clothing, shower, and put clean clothes on the next day. Our energetic systems require the same attention and even more so right now.
These simple steps will help you to move through anything you encounter much more easily
Discern
Untangle
Discern (again)
Release
Cleanse
Repair
There are lots of ways we can assist with the cleansing and repair and vibrational essences are my go to.
Allow yourself to be free from as much of this entanglement as you can and really learn to trust that inner knowing – Spidey sense may be appropriate for now?
I was asked a strange but enlightening question recently
“What wakes you up in the middle of the night?”
I began questioning myself and was crazily looking for some issue or long forgotten worry that was keeping me from sleep. The truth is I couldn’t find one!
What wakes me in the middle of the night is usually inspiration, information and answers to the questions I have during the day!
I often wake with the most detailed and intense information but never quite get round to doing much with it. The procrastination sets in! You know the type of thing those revolving negative questions like:
What if I am wrong?
What if I am not good enough?
Should I not wait until I have X, Y or Z in place before I start working with this information?
What if no one wants to hear this?
Who am I to share this kind of information with others?
What happens if I don’t act on this information?
When I allow those negative possibilities head space I question things too much. It then throws me completely off track. Often what then happens is the information that I had but wouldn’t share is then mirrored to me as others share it and take it to the next level.
Can you relate to this? It is a horrible situation it leaves you feeling deflated and frustrated, mostly at yourself. Self criticism really does push us down into that space where it seems pointless to do anything.
What is it that really keeps me wakened?
Its that frustration at myself for now grasping every opportunity that I am offered!
Its not personal!
What I have come to understand about this process is that it really is nothing personal. There is information being made available, we pick up on what is relevant to us, but if we don’t take steps to work with it and go with the flow it dissipates in the light of day. If we don’t take action on what we receive, then someone else who tunes into this information will. It really is that simple.
Learning to trust yourself
Finding a way to trust that intuitive voice and to allow all this lovely information to flow is a must. This is a key aspect in moving forward. expanding your soul star connection can not only gift you this confidence but increase the information downloads and also encourages synchronicities that lead us to where we need to be.
It doesn’t matter whether its relating to your personal journey, your spiritual growth or your work because the process is exactly the same.
How to move forward?
One essence I can recommend to help with this process is “Sirius – Expansive Communication”.
