It doesn’t always start with something dramatic. More often, it begins with a flicker of discomfort: You begin to wonder, “Why does this always get to me?”
That fluttering, uneasy sense that something might go wrong, even when nothing obvious is happening. A conversation that hits a nerve, a response that feels way bigger than the moment it’s tied to.
It’s subtle, frustrating and hard to explain when everything else in life looks “fine.” That however is not a hint that you’re imagining it, in fact far from it!
We tend to think trauma has to be big, visible, or dramatic, something we can point to and name, but some of the deepest patterns I see, in myself and the people I work with, stem from early experiences that aren’t traumatic in the traditional sense.
They come from moments that were simply too much, or not enough, in a world where we hadn’t yet learned to navigate. Then they get stored, not in conscious memory, but in the body’s blueprint. Held at a cellular level, shaping how we respond long after the moment has passed.
These reactions aren’t deliberate, they’re not chosen, but they do become reflexes, and they are protective adaptations that once helped us survive, but now hold us back.
When you begin to unravel that thread, something begins to shift. Not in one big leap, but through steady, supported recalibration.
It can feel like :“I didn’t spiral like I usually do.”
“I paused before reacting, and that pause gave me everything.”
“It felt different, calmer, like I had more choice.”
These aren’t just “lucky” moments, they’re signs of change taking root. Working with vibrational essences offers a way to support that shift gently. Rather than pushing or overwhelming an already hyper-alert nervous system, the essences help create space, allow us the safety to feel, reflect, and respond differently.
Small changes add up…… and from there, bigger transformations become possible.
A question to sit with
What is the main emotion that keeps holding you back? What in your life might change, if you could feel less triggered by it?
You don’t have to be “ready” in the perfect sense to work with me, just open, and willing to explore what’s possible
What if future generations could grow up free of emotional trauma, unburdened by ancestral wounds, and fully connected to their soul wisdom? This is the world I dream of creating, and it begins with the healing we choose to do today
We live in a world of traumatised people, rearing future generations of equally traumatised people and the thing is, this burden gets heavier with each emerging generation.
Generational trauma is passed from our parents, our grandparents and their ancestral line too. As you look back it is easy to see how quickly the net of this connection is. If we go back 7 generations, without counting siblings etc, we would be influenced roughly by 127 people! That is a whole lot of influence isn’t it!
Its not just the influence in the terms of the behaviours and mind sets that have been passed down but the emotional trauma that is held in cellular memory that is transferred too. So taking each subsequent parent at having a child at age 25 then these 7 generations would span just 175 years.
Now all though that may seem a long time, its the fact of when we look back over the last 175 years to what those previous generations would have lived through. From living conditions, wars, lifestyle, it is easy to see how these difficulties can be transferred to us at a cellular level.
If we do not process our emotions we will become unwell. We all know the picture painted of the executive business person, driven and motivated and under so much stress, they hold overwhelm, they are constantly on the go, their mind never resting and eventually they are struck by burnout,if they are lucky, or by physical illness when their bodies can no longer keep up with the stress that they are putting themselves under.
Now that is an extreme picture to paint but to a lesser degree it is what we are all guilty of. We live in a world where we have been conditioned to push, to achieve, to maintain, and are seen weak if we do not. Now, thankfully many are seeing through this illusion – but it IS still a thing for many.
We only need to look at the adult generation of today to see how dysfunctional they can be, the reliance on addictive substances, recreational for escapism or pharmaceutical when there bodies are sending help signals in the form of physical symptoms to get them to take notice.
However, as we know that often pharmaceutical intervention is a high majority of cases is used simply to mask uncomfortable symptoms and not to address underlying causes. Where as addressing the emotional aspect can gift real insight into where these symptoms originate or more importantly why they have surfaced and why holistic or integrative medicine is important so that both side of this coin can be addressed.
My journey into this work began with my own struggles to break free from patterns of self-doubt and emotional pain. It took years to slowly untangle these threads, but through that process I discovered something profound, the deep wisdom and healing that comes from reconnecting with our true selves. What surprised me most was realising that many of the patterns I carried were rooted in my pre- and perinatal experiences.
Part of my own story was that I was conceived shortly after a traumatic stillbirth and arrived into the world prematurely. The imprints of these early experiences shaped how I related to myself and the world around me. Understanding this changed everything.
You can read more about my personal journey and the some of the implications of this type of trauma in my eBook Beyond the Pattern ~ Creating Conscious Change, Understanding the Echoes of Prebirth, Birth and Beyond. Sign up for your copy HERE
I now support others to shed light on their own stories, to gently untangle their threads, and to grow beyond the barriers these deep-rooted patterns may have held them in. I hold space in a way that feels deeply supportive, so their healing journey doesn’t have to take the years that mine did, always honouring the uniqueness of their path.
Imagine, if you can, a world where parents are emotionally equipped to support their children from conception through to adulthood. A world where the echoes of ancestral wounds no longer shape our beliefs or behaviours. Where each generation is free to grow with clarity, self-worth, and a deep connection to their soul’s wisdom.
This is the ripple effect I strive to create through my work.
The healing journey doesn’t just transform the us ~ it sends waves of change through families, lineages, and communities.
When we begin to explore the deeper layers of our emotional and spiritual selves, we start to unpick the patterns that have kept us stuck,often for generations.
My role is to gently guide clients into this exploration. Whether they’re releasing self-doubt, untangling hidden beliefs, or breaking free from stories that no longer serve them, I offer a grounded yet intuitive approach that empowers real, lasting change.
Using tools intuitively, including vibrational essences and the transformative energy of Gold, I support people to reconnect with their inner wisdom and return to the truth of who they are.
From this place, new possibilities open, and the life they’re truly meant to live can begin to unfold.
Does this sound like the kind of world that you would want to live in too?
What patterns are you ready to release so that you, and those you love, can step into a brighter future?
If this resonates, I’d love to help you explore the possibilities of your own healing journey – you can arrange a chat with me – just a no-pressure, heart-centered space to explore what you’re noticing, what may be arising, and whether gentle support could nourish your next steps.
There’s no expectation. Just a safe doorway into clarity, reflection, and possibility.
I’m looking forward to connecting with you soon.
Here is My Diary link link if you would like to arrange a call
We are always a work in progress – No matter how long we have been doing “this”.
“This” being working on self development, self awareness, personal healing or what ever else you choose to call it.
There is always room for improvement and there will always be times when we fall back into old patterns, old habits and old knee jerk reactions
Thankfully we get better at recognising it BUT sometimes – just sometimes – there can be something that triggers us that we either choose not to see or it somehow slips past our radar. We convince ourselves that all is well, and for the most part it may well be.
However, we can find ourselves subtly drawn out of our centre. Things just don’t feel quite right, we don’t feel quite right, ungrounded, fuzzy, find it harder to connect. All these feelings when they persist can be good pointers that there is something that we are allowing to go under the radar that needs addressed.
I was reminded , this last week or so , that I had lost sight of focus, clarity had slipped, confusion and a real sense of self doubt was growing. It was subtle at first, nothing I could quite put a finger on. I shrugged it off – all is well – I convinced myself.
Focus goes further out “of focus” pardon the pun! Ungrounded, spacey not able to follow through on what I had started – limping ever so slightly – All is well I tell myself less convincingly.
I have a default space of pain of needing reassurance, of not trusting my own judgement – a childhood wound of not being allowed to assert myself – being told what I needed to do and when. Of needing approval.
Don’t get me wrong it wasn’t a horrid thing, just what ever I seemed to choose – there was always a “BUT” but this one is better, this thing is more acceptable, this way is better. All that unconscious micro chipping away of confidence in the ability to choose took many years of painstaking work. I had it pretty much sussed or so I thought.
A situation almost at its conclusion required me to do something that really felt against the grain – in fairness it was unavoidable and wasn’t really a huge thing – but it triggered that part of me that felt ” less than” that felt “undermined” that felt uncomfortable and unsure. That little girl in me – pushed into the limelight – stood nervously picking her nails – twirling her hair – looking lost – desperately trying to please while wishing she could be a million miles from where she was.
All is well I whispered almost imperceivably this time, as I began to reach out to others in an unhealthy way, fumbling for a sense of security, peeking round corners for answers, being more needy in my relationships yet somehow pushing others out at arms length. A petulance – wanting to do it myself – yet still wanting to be told what I was doing was right – heck as it spiralled it felt like I needed someone to give me permission to do what I needed to do – or perhaps on some level I was looking for a get out clause- an excuse “not to”
Yet somewhere in the seeking, the searching, the grasping at straws – the answers caused more confusion – deepened the growing sense of panic and ungroundedness.
Thoughts beginning to spiral – then thoughts of “hating myself” of being disgusted by my “inability to make sense of things” – the waking in the night micro analysing every move, every choice, the sick feeling rising …… Enough!Thankfully that is when awareness kicked in – I began to see my retreat into that old space and that need to take the reins, to hold myself as my greatest council and to heed my own words. Flower essences to the rescue oops Cerato essence not rescue remedy!
Cerato is a beautiful blue flower that brings us back into the still centre of ourselves where we “know” what to do – where we can hear our inner judgement – when we trust our own plan of action.
A few drops and the rising inner chaos descends to a low hum, a few more drops later – silence – calm – clarity returns. Hearing my own inner council suddenly all the jangly feelings stopped, I knew what to do and not only that I was taking immediate action. It was the ONLY way to get through this – the only way to quell the anxious feelings. Job done!
We have to understand that we are human and that we have these traits, each time we come to a crisis or near crisis point is generally where or when we are ready to make a breakthrough to the next level.
Don’t give yourself a hard time about it – journal with it, make friends with it , cut that inner child some slack and hang out with them – chat with them share perspectives and come to an agreement to move forward – peeling yet another layer of the onion off – shedding some burden that you no longer need to carry – making way for fresh things. New ways. YOUR way.
So remember that it happens to us all – it CAN sneak up on us when we are least expecting it BUT we can quickly shift through and come out the other side – a little bit wiser, a little bit stronger and a lot more aware.
The healing journey is a spiral – not a straight path, with each full circle – just when we feel like we are back in that same old place – have made no progress, are having to go through “all that” AGAIN – Is when we are actually breaking through.
When something emotional is trapped inside its a bit like a bubble in an ice block – there has to be energy to heat the ice so that it melts enough for the bubble to be freed to rise to the surface to dissipate – our emotions are those bubbles trapped inside – little pockets or hurt, of pain, of loss, of abandonment, of rejection in fact anything painful that we have pushed down and frozen inside – the energy needed to unfreeze those emotions come from the catalyst , the trigger , and when we are ready to release the ice melts enough to let that bubble pass to the surface – sometimes quickly and smoothly , sometimes it takes a bit of pushing and shoving and extra energy to coax it out.
The one thing sure about it that if we work with the process we can make things easier and that once released there is a whole new perspective and lessening of the hold that the emotion had on us. It also allows us to be more aware should we revisit this healing spiral of exactly what is going on for us.
I have negotiated this path and have laid another layer of the onion to rest – for now the way forward feels smooth and fresh and vibrant – I know there will be more twists and turns and bumps in the road but I celebrate the victory trusting in my own judgement to show me the way ……
