Origin & Echoes

Tag: emotional-health

  • Who do you see when you look in the mirror?

    Mirrors eh!  Love them or hate them they are interesting – intriguing and also very enlightening. 

    When you look into the mirror – who do you see?  

    Do you recognise the person looking back at you?

    Do you look at them with love or with criticism ~ or worse ~ condemnation?

    Do you see only flaws or perhaps disappointment as the years shift our features into something or someone we may feel we don’t know? 

    Or do you see a soul looking back at you through your eyes 

    Searching for a glimmer of kindness ~ love ~ recognition even? 

    How do you treat that person looking back at you from the mirror? Do you pay them very little attention – do you judge and belittle – do you treat them in the way you would abhor to treat another human being?

    What if I remind you that the person in the mirror – the reflection looking back at you – is your greatest ally ~ the one person who doesn’t desert you ~ your greatest teacher ~ your confidante ~ the person who knows every little detail about you – the times you have cried yourself to sleep – the times you have gone out of your way to help others unnoticed ~ your uncertainties and your fears. 

    Perhaps that is why you criticise that reflection ~ presuming it to be “like others” ready to pounce and use your flaws and insecurities against you? 

    What if I told you that this person staring right back at you is the one you need to love the most ~ the one you need to be gentle and kind with ~ the one who is always patiently waiting for your approval? 

    If you are looking for approval- look in the mirror 

    If you are looking for love – look in the mirror 

    If you are looking for compassion look in the mirror

    If you are looking for inspiration look in the mirror 

    Looking in the mirror we look to ourselves ~ to our deepest wisdom ~ to our infinite well of unconditional love and compassion. Your greatest teacher looks back at you when you look in the mirror!

    What if I told you that everything you don’t like in your life is a mirror? A mirror reflecting back at you the need to look within ~ to look to your own guidance~ to love yourself? 

    Until we can face the external what ever it may be – with unconditional love and an understanding that all discord comes from a place of lack of love ~ then until we find that place within ~ our own painful hurts will be triggered ~ no amount of external work or avoidance ~ will heal the places where we deeply need to love ourselves. 

    Learning to love yourself is the greatest gift of all – when you can love yourself unconditionally , there is so much love within that it can’t help overflow and touch everything we do and everyone we meet with that beautiful magic.

    Until you learn to love yourself you will always have a space where no matter how much love you receive from others there will still be that aching empty space within.

    What if I told you that loving yourself is much easier than you think – it begins with small steps and the more you take these small steps the bigger the impact on your wellbeing.

    Start by saying something kind to yourself – If you don’t find it easy to say ” I love you” try “thank you” and if you struggle with that try to stop any negative “thought comments” in their track ….. we say things like ” my hair is a mess” you look: Tired/Pale/bored/ too old/ too young/too thin/too fat ….add adjectives to suit your own personal situation. I am sure you will be well aware of the dialogue you have with yourself.

    So take some time to appreciate the beautiful soul that looks back at you through your eyes via the lens of the mirror and begin to share love and gratitude with them – watch how life becomes easier and how others respond in a positive way to the changes and the love they can sense emanating from you via the soulful mirror of your eyes ……

    As always, with Starlight love

    Sally xxx

  • Reality & Perception

    We are learning new ways to support and care for ourselves. A big part of this is learning to challenge our triggers and discern why we are being triggered in the way that we are. Does it push an old pattern button that causes a less favourable knee jerk reaction?

    How can we approach things from a place of love and as much neutrality as we can?

    Remember everyone has a valid point of view. It’s a bit like arguing with someone from the Southern Hemisphere that it is summer right now when they are absolutely adamant that it is winter. Both of us are right and without being armed with information of the difference in hemispheres a resolution or common ground would never be found.

    ( Did you presume that the image at the top of the page was of snow? Its actually the salt flats at Pamukkale in Turkey!)

    Everyone has a different reality. That reality is shaped by genetics, ancestral patterning, parental views and peer influence amongst other things. If I have never encountered the same landscapes whether physical, emotional or spiritual I will never fully understand your form of reality. In the same way you could never fully understand mine. We may have touching points that link and unify us in some way but we won’t be exactly the same, and that is perfectly ok.

    It’s by speaking about our realities that we begin to open to the notion that there is a bigger picture and that our version is part of that jigsaw. Similarly to a jigsaw if we are trying to fit into a part of the puzzle that is totally misaligned and we don’t fit into then we will encounter much more resistance from those around us.

    That’s not to say we can’t alter our own edges by being open to new thoughts and being open to possibilities that our views are not the only ones. As we expand our own realities we can become more compassionate when others show up with different views. 

    It doesn’t mean we gullibly accept poor treatment from others in respect of our different realities, in fact it means we may well need to step up our boundaries and point out that much as we see things differently that X, Y or Z is just not how we choose to be treated. 

    The more we become clear on our own perceptions and understand that reality is a constantly changing notion of our surroundings in conjunction with our pre determined reactions and conditioning, the more we understand that we have both the capacity and the responsibility to alter that reality to be more congruent with our changing needs. Happy exploring  As always, with Starlight Love Sally xxx