Sometimes it’s easier to notice our default patterns when they’re given a name and a bit of tongue-in-cheek exaggeration. Two that cropped up this week:
- Heidi Houdini: She bursts in full of enthusiasm, notebook and pens at the ready… and then, just as things get close to a deeper truth, she does a vanishing act worthy of the great Houdini himself. Easier to slip away than risk facing what she’s buried for years.
- Belinda Brave-Face: Quick with the banter, always upbeat, the one who keeps the jokes and smiles flowing. On the outside she looks fine, but inside there’s a jaded edge, a hollowness that lingers once the punchline has left her lips.
Both patterns developed for a reason. Heidi learned early that her voice didn’t matter, so she tucked it away.
Belinda discovered that performing and entertaining kept her liked and safe, while her real feelings were well hidden underneath…and so the show goes on.
Do you recognise a little bit of Heidi or Belinda in yourself or someone you know?
Why Healing Sometimes Doesn’t bring what we had hoped for.
If you’ve ever had healing sessions, maybe even taken an arm full of courses , and found yourself drifting back into the same old patterns afterwards, you’re not alone.
It’s not that the therapy was ineffective, or that you failed in some way. It’s that for some of us, the silent patterns running in the background don’t hand over control easily. When the solution offered feels out of your control, that sets of the alarm that created the pattern in the first place, and the deeper part of you quietly pulls back, and that’s more than enough to stall change.
Real, lasting shifts happen when there’s space to be heard. When the pattern itself is kept in view, not bulldozed over but gently listened to. When you can choose how to move forward, rather than having something “done to or for you.”
Beginning to Unravel
So here’s the question I leave with you this week: Are you still willing to pay the price of staying stuck?
The tricky part is, these patterns don’t usually announce themselves. Often you can’t see them at all, or they wear disguises so convincing they look like common sense, logic, or “just how life is.” That’s why support matters:
- to help identify what’s really going on under the surface
- to reframe it so it no longer holds the same power,
- and to walk with you through whatever surfaces along the way.
And if you’d like a gentle place to begin, Chiastolite Elixir can support these first steps. For anyone who purchases, I include a simple 3-day ritual protocol as a gift, a way of beginning to unbind old vows and ties with intention, while having something steady to hold you as you take those first steps. You can purchase the Elixir here or book a chat over a cuppa to discuss your needs here
Because sometimes the bravest move isn’t a grand leap forward. It’s choosing to start look at what no longer serves, finding that awareness can be crucial and it gives you the choice to choose what you begin to untangle, one gentle knot at a time.
